Friday, March 15, 2019
Hey, You …
It’s my birthday!!!
My birthday is March 29th. And, for those of you who know me well, you know I love to give gifts on my birthday as an expression of gratitude, a celebration for you being in my life another year.
This month, I am so honored to share with you the best gift I’ve ever received … my daughter, María Carmen Montero-Little, as the guest Meechie.
I am so proud of her, my love and joy could never even fit on these pages or all the pages to infinity.
She is a gifted artist and you can catch her on your favorite streaming service, under her artist name, MEMO.
Thank you for being in my life.
I love you.
Happy birthday to me.
Getting in The Way of Myself
“Don’t get in the way of yourself.”
This is the best advice I’ve ever received.
I graduated high school in May 2016, and was very excited and eager to enter what everyone called the “real world.” My Mom always said time goes by fast after high school, so make every moment worthwhile.
I was very happy to have finished, yes, but the standing question in my life became more real than ever … What do I do next?
I knew I wanted to make my Mom proud, and go to college, but I also knew I wasn’t the biggest fan of school.
In a panic, I started working multiple jobs, and traveled constantly to different states and abroad. I was exhausted.
It was always my dream to be a singer; but, I kept hearing it wasn’t the best “career choice.”
I couldn’t see myself doing anything else with my life, so I finally spoke with my Mom and all she had to say was, “Don’t get in the way of yourself.”
It took me a while to figure out what “getting in the way of myself” really meant.
Often times, I would distract myself from feeling lost in life by picking up a job I didn’t need, going out with friends every night, or going on random road trips. While these spontaneous moments were fun, I haven’t gained anything from these impulsive decisions.
I was able to find the courage to speak my truth about wanting to be a singer, yet it didn’t make life any easier.
Although I had my Mom’s support, the question of – What do I do next? – didn’t just disappear.
What I needed was a foundation, a plan, and a direction. I had to figure out what I really wanted, and how I was going to get there. I was just too afraid to fail to make the next move.
I ultimately had to take the next steps to find a good music school, producers, audio engineers, and vocal coaches.
The process of gathering all the resources was very stressful, but I felt accomplished after working to get everything I needed into one tactical plan and to get started on my goal.
I found a producer, I found an audio engineer, and I found a vocal coach.
I wasn’t able to get started on making music right away, as I’d hoped. Instead, I went to school for a few semesters and took music theory courses and to get a better understanding about pitch, volume, and vocal control.
I finally got in to a studio in Summer 2017, and produced my first song, Menace,released the next year in Summer 2018.
The feeling was surreal!
Had you told me in May 2016 that I would be releasing my own song, I wouldn’t have believed it.
Shortly after Menace, I released an album, IMSORRY, then another single, The Devil.
Then, I understood.
I finally realized what my Mom meant when she said, “Don’t get in the way of yourself.”
She meant to never give up on myself.
Never stop trying.
Never let fear distract me from what I want in life.
María Carmen Montero-Little